Is it ever time to let go?
You know we are told never to give up on the dream, right?
We hear stories about wonderfully tenacious people who reap the rewards of their efforts years down the line.
I happen to believe in pursuing your dreams and goals.
Tenacity is one of the most useful qualities to have
However…
A question I ask my clients often, is ‘what is this costing you?’
Sometimes the answer comes back…
“My happiness”
or
“My sense of self worth”
A big price.
Sometimes the driver behind the dream is to prove something to someone else
I get that.
When I started writing it was to prove to my family that I could do it.
I fantasised about revealing a great publishing deal and I imagined the reactions.
Honestly, I could spend hours creating my triumphant scenario…

And it made me unhappy.

So I have let go.

Not of the writing but of all the things that were attached to it.
I sent out my finished manuscript(seven years in the making) to one last agent yesterday, and I don’t think I will ever hear back.
Now is that giving up on the dream?
Or is that giving up on letting the dream take over my life?
Sometimes one just has to take a reality check.
This isn’t failure
This is reframing.
This is taking another approach.
This is doing something just for the love of it.
This is finding a way to continue doing the things we want to do, without torturing ourselves in the process.

Failing or taking back control?