Thomasina Unsworth

Break a vase, and the love that reassembles the fragments is stronger than that love which took its symmetry for granted when it was whole. (Derek Walcott) I love this! Recently quite a lot of things broke in my life Some I chose to smash Some I did not. I left a...

What's wrong with being ordinary? Why does that word carry negative implications? It isn't negative for me. In fact it is comforting. I am an ordinary human being. Growing up I had a dad who wrote books and won a big prize for doing it. From my earliest days I was...

And so she bought a lipstick..... This was one of my most joyful moments coaching. I was working with a woman who was doing something brave. It was something she had dreamed of for many many years. Something she had longed for but had squashed down in her whilst she...

I have long struggled with the view that all you have to do is manifest what you want and then you get it. Ask the Universe in the right way and you shall receive. There are a number of reasons why I have issues with this. For starters it feels hugely narcissistic;...

My daughters visited yesterday. I listened to them talking. The in jokes, the shared references, their world in common. And I thought, wow, wasn't it only moments ago that you held my hand to cross the road? When you thought I had all  the answers, so you came with...

A client of mine’s boss told her to “get back in her box” yesterday. The instruction followed her suggestion to consider a different approach to the way they were working, an approach she felt would solve some issues they were having. I asked her what her response...

I went for a coffee today with an old friend who I hadn’t seen for some years. Our children grew up together, but once there were no more school gates to meet at, and playdates to share, we saw less of each other, until all the demands of life intervened and we lost...

How do we measure success? I have been thinking about this a lot; it is something that comes up often during coaching sessions. If I earn X amount of money, I will be a success, if I get that promotion, if my novel gets published, if I run a marathon, if I pass my...

I was in a café with my mum this weekend. It was crowded so a couple at a table made space for us to sit down. We ordered tea and cake and began to talk. The couple next to us carried on with their conversation. Talking to someone with Alzheimer’s, as many will know,...